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I got cat-fished – Tzan Jero

Now this is a really long and complicated story but please bear with me! I need to explain everything from the start so you get the gist. I haven’t told anyone about this because I’m embarrassed, mostly to myself, because i can’t believe i was this stupid to allow this to happen.

I wish i had all the receipts but i deleted most of it because i honestly just wanted to forget everything. But it’s been eating me for weeks and i feel like sharing this might help. !! Quick BG im a transwoman Cebuana studying Interior Design.

It started when i met him on Tinder. “B” that was the name on his profle. I’m from Cebu and he’s from Makati. His profile showed up when he was here but we matched when he had already left back to Manila. I mentioned im trans and he was fine with it.

Initially libog lang cos bored. So exchanging of nudes lang ganon.But it came to a point where we were already talking about deeper stuff and we were sharing experiences na ganon. So I became invested and asked for his full name so i could lowkey stalk.

“Bill Iver Reyes”. I tried stalking pero nothing came up. At first i didnt really bother baka he didnt use his full name on his profile idk. But i never bothered to dig deep. But quick profile, he’s an Art Director for a firm who also models on the side. 24 y/o living in Makati.

Fast forward few weeks later he mentioned coming to Cebu for work. Ofc i got excited kasi finally we’re meeting up but nervous at the same time. Ive had many experiences with catfishing so obv i had my doubts. Lagi ko tinatanong “you’re really coming diba?” “Ure not a poser diba”

Annoyed, Sabi niya “Oo papunta na nga ako airport eto flight number ko PR ####” Obv flight details are public records so medj suspicious parin ako but dinedma ko “okay ill shower then ill go to the airport na”

Literally after i showered, wala na. Blocked na ako sa viber, inunmatch na ako sa Tinder and i was mad AF. Ofcourse he’s fake lol Naluha ako kasi naging close kami after weeks of talking. Tapos poser pala. I was right all along…until…

Lumusot pa na “she’s in the middle of a shoot” but after sending the screenshots, HALATANG EDITED (check the name, it’s a different font)

So at that point i was convinced he’s 100% a poser… UNTIL! He videocalled me. (I forgot to turn on the mic but basically ini-in your face niya ko na “hoy di ako poser”)At that point I WAS CONFUSED AF. Tang ina? Ano yun.

Being the marupok and gullible person that i am, fast forward, we continued talking. It went on for MONTHS this time. Sobrang saya ko with him he really made me feel like I was special. That i was accepted, that my flaws didn’t matter. He made me feel beautiful and loved.

He became very open to me about his parents died when he was still young, and how he had to live by himself at such a young age until he became an orphan living with his bestfriend and his mom na kumupkop sa kanya. About how his ex cheated on him etc.SOBRANG MMK NG STORY NIYA LOL

But what made me like him the most is our shared passion for design. How he was able to become an Art Director at such a young age, and how he was able to save up money to buy himself a condo and is now saving up for a car. He was driven, he was ambitious.

He would always push me to become better, we were growing together. I would help him with design choices sa branding ng clients na hinahandle niya, he would help me with my plates presentation and would do my layouts for me. And pinakaimportante he saw the woman in me.

We would LITERALLY talk every single day. Walang araw na di kami nag uusap, siguro we would not talk if natutulog kami (obv) but we would literally text NONSTOP. So i became pretty invested. I got used to him.

But coming from an LDR relationship with my ex, i was used to facetimes and phones calls everyday. Siya hindi. Hindi daw talaga siya maphone how much more facetimes or phonecalls. Naiintindihan ko naman kasi he would facetime/call me at times but take note: SUPER RARE

Obviously, you wouldnt think he’s still a poser diba? Kasi naririnig ko siya, nakikita ko siya sa videocall minsan. So my mind was set na, “Okay, totoo siya” i didn’t have to worry about that issue anymore.

Fast forward, we got into a really big fight. He thought i was cheating. I wont go into details na cos hahaba pa to and it’s not the main point. But the fight was so intense that i would hear sa phone call na he was already punching the wall, and nagwawala na siya.

I then texted Sam knowing siya lang contact ko na friend niya, and asked a favor if he can go to Bil to check up on him

I was on the phone with sam and would hear people na pinipigilan si Bil kasi nagwawala basta sobrang gulo lol. Ending, umalis siya. He was gone. Nobody knows san siya pumunta. He had no phone so we had no idea how to find him. It was like this for about a week.

I was disraught. Hindi na ako kumakain, i wasn’t able to do my plates, i had anxiety kahit ano2 na. How the hell do you find someone who is A. Miles away from you B. Walang phone C. Barely know any of his friends. I only knew sam. And i was with her in trying to find him.

Sa sobrang desperate ko i bugged sam to contact his work, asked for his workmates numbers and contacted them baka they have any idea: WALA daw. Di pumapasok. I became so desperate i almost booked a flight to Manila. Pero naisip ko, how tf do i find him, idk anything about Manila

So at that point i was left with no option but to try and email him. “” he would send the layouts from this email every-time he would help me with my plates.

He replied..

THREAD (cont): at this point he’s already lost his job after being AWOL for a week, moved out from his foster fam’s house to his condo (which he initially bought as an investment daw but he didnt wanna live there alone) and is left with the remaining freelance projs he’s handling

Fast forward naging okay kami and we continued talking again. This went on for another 2 months (marupok ako guys sorry lmao). Until he decided he wanted to move in with me. He’s tired of the LDR situation and since he’s doing freelance narin naman and can work anywhere

Might as well live in my city. Para tapos na ang issue with LDR. Sabi ko sure ka ba? He said, yes i’m sure. May ipon naman ako. Diyan nalang ako bibili ng sasakyan ang i’ll sell the condo na so i can rent there. So ofc i helped him look for condos. Nagsipag talaga ako.

I emailed a lot of agents, did oculars on a lot of units and showed every possible option to him na gusto niya and pasok sa budget. At this point i offered to be the one to visit him in Manila being the least that i could do since he’s doing the “bigger move” by moving to my city

So fast forward i was otw to the airport, may dala pa akong extra luggage kasi di na daw kasya gamit niya lol. I WAS NERVOUS AS HELL. Alam ko naman totoo siya pero i was still uneasy. “What if he doesnt show up? What if he gets cold feet? Fuck! First time namin magkikita”

I arrived in T4 and while i was waiting for my baggage nagtext siya, nasa labas na daw siya. “Fuck ok this is it” Paglabas ko. PUTA HE’S FUCKING REAL. I cried kasi na overwhelm ako and was very relieved. Sabi niya “hello..” and then we hugged. It was awkward pero really good.

I told him nagutom ako but it was like 2am na and yung Jollibee sa unahan nalang yung open so we decided to go there. I ordered for us and yun kumain kami. Then i noticed parang tahimik na niya so sabi ko “huy, may problema ba?” “Wala, sge kain ka lang” Tapos tahimik parin siya.

“Huy, ano nga sabihin mo na.” Biglang nagiba mood niya and he randomly said. “ayoko na.” MY HEART FUCKING DROPPED “ha? Ano problema? Napapangitan ka ba sakin?” “Hindi, ewan basta ayoko na. Iba parin talaga sa personal compared sa chat eh” I was speechless at this point.

THEN HE FUCKING WALKED OUT. “Sorry Jzan, ayoko na talaga” literal na iniwan ako. Hinabol ko siya kasi unang pumasok sa isip ko “fuck? San ako matutulog? It’s 3AM i know nothing about manila” so hinabol ko talaga siya and everyone at Jollibee was looking at us. Hinila ko siya.

“BIL! Ano ba wag mo kong iwan!!!” I was hysterical. Hinila ko siya ng hinila while he was trying to leave. Nasira ko nga jacket niya. Lahat nakatingin prin samin from the glasswindow pati the guards in the area were suspicious na. “Please wag mo ko iwan i dont know where to go”

“Kahit iwan mo nalang ako after just please let me settle in a place first.” I was hurt but i was more desperate. I was scared because im in a very unfamiliar city. “AYOKO NGA BITAWAN MO NA AKO!!” he had no remorse.

While i was begging him at the back of my head nagisip na ako ng mga kakilala ko sa Manila. When i had an idea of who to contact, i let go, and scrambled through my phone to contact her. @gayleperral ily! THANK YOU DAHIL NAGISING SIYA! I didnt explain much but she gave the add.

And i immediately booked a grab. I looked back to check if andun pa siya but he was gone. Like a bubble. Naalala ko naiwan ko pa lahat ng gamit ko sa Jollibee so i went inside. I was a mess. Nkkhiya people were staring at me. I got my stuff and waited for the grab.

The next day some of bestfriends who were in manila as well visited me to console me. And one of my friends didn’t believe na he doesnt have socmed. He was suspicious so sabi niya “Send mo nga photo niya i’ll ask around” and he IG-storied his photo asking “Anyone knows him?”

At first hinayaan ko nalang siya. I explained he didnt have social media kasi daw yung modelling agency i rerebrand siya so he had to delete his socmed and sila maghahandle etc. My friend thought it was bullshit. After a few hours BOOM, may nagreply “That’s Bilko”

I WAS SHAKING. Wow i was talking to this guy for 4 months and he lied about his identity?!? No social media my ass.

Bilko Wagan Argana, 24 from San Pablo Laguna. HAS A GF. At this point di ko muna sinabi sakanya na alam ko. He was still texting me apologizing for what happened. I told him i wanted to meet up. I want a closure. Kahit yun man lang diba deserve ko? I wanted to catch him redhanded.

Pinaasa niya ako for 2 days. He never showed up. Instead he sent me this video. KUPAL.

I got so mad I called him “Bilko Wagan Argana pala ha?” Hindi siya nakasagot. Naiyak nalang ako and i said “Fuck you!” and i dropped the call. I went back to Cebu. WASAK.

And oh. I texted sam for making me look like a stupid bitch

It was a few weeks na hindi ulit ako kumakain. Wala akong gana to do anything napabayaan ko na plates ko. I was a complete mess. Anong ginawa ko to deserve this? I was uneasy. I needed an explanation otherwise im gonna be like this for a while. So I contacted Sam

So he called me. I cried diretso. “Why? Bat mo nagawa sakin yun? Nagsorry siya. He explained that the reason why he lied kasi hindi niya daw inexpect na aabot kami sa ganito. He thought na it was just libog and fun. That’s why he lied about his name

Cos he didnt want to get attached. He was hurt daw from his prev relationshiop. He was also a mess daw (lul) but then we became more vulnerable and we got closer to the point where he didnt know how to explain that he lied in the first place so he tried to lie as long as possible.

“Minahal na kita, and natakot ako na mawala ka if i told you the truth. I lied about my family as well because i didnt want then na madamay. But EVERYTHING ELSE IS TRUE. Totoo lahat ng nararamdaman ko. Yung pangalan at sa pamilya ko lang talaga”. (Non verbatim)

In a way naintindihan ko (wow marupok lol) But what i didnt understand was how fucked up he was that he would kill his own parents?!? For this?!! “What if nagkatotoo and his parents died after this? Kakayanin ng konsensya mo?” He kept apologizing. I dropped the call.

I tried to move on. Okay… at least i know the reason. Okay na yun. Move on na. Back to school na lol. A few weeks later he texted. “I miss you” Everyone (my friends most esp lol) will hate me for this but fast forward. We continued talking again. (Im sorry i told u marupok ako)

This went on for another few months. The trust wasnt there na. But in my head this is better than me hooking up around or getting addicted with tinder/bumble. He would help me with my plates.. so in my head. Okay na to. I benefit from this anyway.

He wanted to make bawi and told me he wanted to spend the holidays and his birthday with me. (Dec 26 Bday niya). Sabi ko “yan nanaman tayo” he would get annoyed but understood where i was coming from. So he booked a ticket and showed me the itinerary.

So ofc i believed him. I looked it up on airasia and the flight reservation was confirmed. He also mentioned na he opened up to his parents about him dating a trans and his parents got mad and di siya pinapansin sa bahay daw for a really long time.

Fast forward, slowly pinapansin na siya and naiintindihan na daw siya. He mentioned na he would spend Christmas , his Bday and New Years sa Cebu with me. And nagalit ulit yung parents niya. He told me about this and he guilt trip me that he would still go and bahala na.

I personally was against the idea. So i told him. No it’s okay. Naiintindihan ko. Don’t choose me over your fam. FAMILY FIRST. So wala ulit. Postponed. LDR ulit.

Next plan was to spend my birthday with me. Sure na daw. I was already mema at this point. Whatever. Sige. Come. Ofc he booked another flight. Showed me the itinerary. He booked a flight from Clark cos it was cheaper daw. He’ll stay with Sam a night before nalang daw

He’s with Sam na daw. Excited na siya to see me. UNTIL.. i get a text. PUTANG INA MO MANLOLOKO. CHEATER BLAH2;&;@:@ “I was like TF?” san galing to?

Long story short (this is a whole ass thread if i go into deets) One of my friend na nakatext niya because she was asking for help with the layouts of her presentations SNITCHED ON ME and told Bil i was still on Tinder/ Bumble and i apparently “hooked up” with guys in bet

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?!?! In my defense, i still had the app because i didnt wanna fully commit until HE has proven something. I wanted to leave something for myself so i kept my doors open. But MORE IMPORTANTLY, why is my friend a snake and why would he believe her than me?

Obv it was another excuse to not come here. He ended up crying. Missed his flight and went back home. Another flight wasted. Fast fw i explained everything and we reconciled.

Fast forward my friends and I planned a trip to Manila for Wanderland. Ofc. Im the clown who went all the way to see him and used Wanderland as an excuse. We even booked separate hotel rooms so we can spend time together. He was excited. We planned the trip again together.

Ofc, a few days before the trip, he got cold feet. Ayaw na daw niya. Wala na daw yung trust (WOW?) Toxic na daw kami. (WOW) so he decided not to show up. I was whatever because i still had my friends anyway. This was different from the last Manila trip. I HAD PLANS.

Being the clown that i am. I asked sam if he can force Bil to see me. (Cos apparently he listens to Sam.

Eventually he agreed to see me. BUT ONLY IF KASAMA SI SAM. (YES, si Sam na naman..Then they showed up lol.

Sam WAS THERE the entire time. Idk why pero she would push us to take photos all the time. Here are a few lol

We had lunch in BGC. And decided we’d go back to the hotel para mag usap ng maayos. At first i thought kami lang. But sam apparently joined us?!!!? She said patambay lang daw muna may booking daw siya iniintay lang niya. I was like okay… she eventually left anyway.

Wait for Part 4 i ran out of tweets in a thread lmao

So nung kami nalang sa room. He rested for a bit and we cuddled (lol) and i tried kissing him pero ayaw niya. So i was put off at that point. Nangulit ako and told him “why won’t you kiss me?” “Ayaw lang”

I thought he was just teasing me. Pero ayaw talaga niya so i got annoyed but whatever. Im gonna end this. This is not working anymore.. fuck this. I lost myself because of this. UNTIL… he started fucking me? I was shocked pero ok lol sige pang last lmao.

He came and then said to me “masaya ka na?” I WAS LIKE TANG INA?!?! You fucked me. I just wanted a kiss. Anong MASAYA NA BA AKO?!?!? I came back to my senses we dressed up and I sat down with him. “What the fuck is going on? Ano ba to?”

He was silent for a while. Like he was trying to find the right words to say… we were crying. I was confused. “Damay lang din ako dito..” U HAVE NO IDEA HOW CONFUSED I WAS.

“Ano?! Anong ibig sabihin?” “Wala naman talaga ako dito eh pero dinamay nila ako. Di naman kita kilala.” MAY IBANG WORD PA BA FOR MORE CONFUSED?!?

“Si Sam… si sam lahat.. hindi naman ako yung kausap mo. Si sam… “ And it started hitting me. FYI SA VIber lang talaga yung commu namin. Even after he added me on fb ayaw niya sa messenger kasi nasanay daw siya samin na sa viber lang kami lagi.

Kaya pala text lang kami palagi. Kaya pala he doesnt like calling or Facetiming me. Kaya pala he never showed up. Everything is starting to make sense now.

“im sorry wag mo ako idamay dito please. Biktima lang din ako” “Pero Why did you agree to this set up?” “E di ko alam na ganito pala pagsundo nila sakin may dala ng flowers ibigay ko daw sayo. Di ko talaga alam naguguluhan din ako” “Why did you fuck me?” “Nalibugan lang din ako”

PUTANG INA YAN?!?! I felt molested.

“Hindi naman ako yung kausap mo eh. Eto lang meron ako oh, yung facebook ko tapos ig. Wala naman akong viber. Di naman yan yung number ko eh” “Pero why did you add me on facebook” “Eh utos lang ni sam add daw kita” MOTHERFUCKER

“Bat ka nga pumayag sa ganito?” “Assistant lang kasi ako ni sam sa mga shoot. Tapos sa modelling binibigyan niya ako ng raket. Ayoko lang mawalan ng trabaho” “Pwede bang tayo na lang mag usap? Block mo na sila lahat. Tayo nalang. Eto na ako yung totoo”

I was so shocked and angry and confused and hurt di ko alam. So i asked him to leave my room. He left. I had to leave earlier than my friends early morning the next day so i packed and went straight to airport. I went back to Cebu. WASAK AGAIN.

8 months. Ginago nila ako for 8 long months. I never expected someone this talented to be this fucked up. She’s worked with big names and brands in the industry. WHO WOULD’VE FUCKING THOUGHT?!?

No wonder SAM was always in the picture. Even from the start. I feel so stupid. Im embarrased. I feel like shit.

Why did Sam do it in the first place: to answer everyone’s questions lol:

She called me to explain everything. I screenrecorded it but forgot to turn on the mic skskks so (non verbatim). It took her awhile to find the right words to say. She was running around the bush.

What you’re about to read is from our phone call and how i remembered it. It’s up for you to decide if you believe her excuse or not. Or if you believe me. I am not making this shit up. I honestly wish i was because this is completely fucked up but this is my reality.

It started when she was young She was bullied by gay people all the time. Thats where her hatred towards the gays started. Later on her homophobic uncle found out about the bullying and wanted to revenge for her so nilandi niya yung bakla. He made the gay fall in love with him

He did it for a while until nagsawa siya, and asked Sam to continue it. In her words “It became an addiction” They would target gay/trans people, make them fall in love and then ghost them. That’s how it started with me. When they found out i was trans.

It wasnt just her. Apparently there are 3 of them. Sam, another girl, and one of her guy friends (na kausap ko sa phone for 8 months, who did all the phone calls) The plan was 1 week TOPS. But i became really suspicious and started digging deep and mentioned before na if i…

…find out that you’re a poser i would “post a thread and ruin your reputation” (lol look at us now) at that time i was just joking ofc. I didn’t really expect it to be this intense.. So Sam pushed with the whole scheme.. for 8 months

Sam manipulated Bilko. Sam would tell Bilko may shoot daw sila ganito ganyan. And mashoshock nalang si Bilko kasi may imimeet daw ganon. (Thus the whole airport and pa flowers and BGC fiasco)

“So sino yung graphic designer na gumagawa ng layouts ko?” “Kumukuha kami ng tao. Para kahit papaano matutulungan ka namin sa plates mo kasi naguiguilty kami” A+ for Effort. Thank you for your service lmao

She just started crying and kept apologizing. “Sorry jzan sorry di ko talaga inexpect na aabot sa ganito. Im fucked up. Natakot ako na sirain mo ko dahil i just started growing. I just landed these deals with big brands like H&M and Jag etc.. ayoko masira yun” But to what extent?

My feelings? Yung pagkatao ko? Yung Oras, Pera lahat lahat na ininvest ko for this!!?! THIS IS FUCKED UP. I cried. I didn’t know how to feel. So i tried to forget EVERYTHING and tried to move on. But wala. It’s been eating me for the past few weeks.

I had no one to share cos even ako don’t understand how fucked up this situation is. So i stayed silent. But i realized im not get let you motherfuckers get away with this. You guys are fucked up in the head. I just wanted to love and be loved. I DONT DESERVE THIS. NO ONE DOES

What do you think?

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